Is Pole Dancing for me?

The Honest Truth About Starting Pole Dancing

Pole dancing is an art form, a workout, and a journey. But let’s be real—it’s not for everyone. You may have seen impressive tricks and fluid routines on social media, but what you don’t often see is the real effort, time, and, most importantly, humility it takes to reach that level. So, how do you know if pole dancing is for you? Let’s break it down.

1. Pole Dancing Requires Commitment

When you first start pole dancing, you might think you’ll be able to hold yourself up gracefully on the pole right away. 🚨 Spoiler alert : that’s not how it works. The reality is that most people can’t even hold their own body weight in the beginning. And that’s okay! But it’s crucial to ask yourself: are you willing to push through that initial struggle?

If you expect instant results and get frustrated after a few failed attempts, pole dancing might not be for you. You need to be ready to commit to the grind, to show up week after week, and keep practicing even when it feels like you’re not making progress. The truth is, you’re building strength, skill, and confidence little by little.

2. Embrace Being “Bad” Before You Get Good 🤡

One of the biggest obstacles people face when learning pole is not the physical aspect—it’s mental. Many quit because they aren’t humble enough to be bad before they get good. Pole dancing is an art that requires you to be okay with not being perfect, with stumbling, slipping, and struggling. The people who succeed are the ones who are humble enough to keep showing up even when they feel like they’re the worst in class.

Here’s where self-doubt comes into play: if you’re constantly worried about how others perceive you or if you fear looking silly, you’ll stay stuck. But getting out of your comfort zone is exactly what will make you grow! You have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Are you ready to embrace the discomfort and awkwardness of being a beginner?

If not, maybe pole dancing isn’t your path. But if you can stick it out, you’ll experience the excitement of mastering new skills and feeling proud of how far you’ve come.

3. Strength Takes Time, Not Magic 💪✨

Let’s be honest: you’re not going to walk into a studio and suddenly become a powerhouse. Pole dancing requires a level of strength that takes time to develop. This means you’ll have to deal with being tired, sore, and frustrated as you slowly build the muscles necessary to perform even basic moves. It’s easy to feel like you’re failing when your body doesn’t seem to cooperate, but that’s where the real work happens.

If you’re looking for a quick fix or an easy workout, you won’t find that in pole. But if you’re willing to stick with it, celebrate small victories, and trust the process, you’ll get stronger—both physically and mentally.

Self-doubt will creep in when you see others progressing faster than you or when you struggle with a move you’ve been practicing for weeks. But don’t let that voice convince you to quit. Missing out on the excitement and new skills you’ll gain by pushing through would be a huge loss.

4. Can You Handle Repetition and Failure? 😖

Here’s the thing: you’re going to fall, mess up, and fail. A lot. Pole dancing is full of repetition. You’ll do the same move dozens, maybe hundreds of times before it clicks. The question is, can you handle that? Some people can’t—they get bored, or worse, they take failure personally. But to get good at pole dancing, you need to accept that failure is part of learning.

You might need to ask yourself: Am I humble enough to keep failing until I succeed? Can I embrace the process of trial and error, or do I get discouraged easily? The ones who thrive in pole are those who are willing to fall flat (sometimes literally!) and get right back up.

Staying in your comfort zone—where you avoid challenges and don’t take risks—will rob you of growth. The excitement you’ll miss out on by staying comfortable will never compare to the thrill of finally nailing a move that once seemed impossible.

5. It’s Not Just Physical—It’s Mental 🧠

Pole dancing challenges not just your body but your mind. It teaches you resilience, humility, and the importance of persistence. If you’re the type of person who quits when things get hard, or who only likes activities that come easily, then pole dancing might not be the best fit for you. But if you’re willing to commit to personal growth—both on and off the pole—then you might find that pole dancing transforms more than just your fitness.

So, Is Pole Dancing For You? 👀

Here’s the bottom line: Pole dancing is for those who are committed, humble, and willing to suck at it for a while before they get good. It’s for the people who can laugh at their mistakes and use them as fuel to improve. If you’re ready to embrace the discomfort, face your self-doubt, push past your comfort zone, and not miss out on all the excitement and new skills you could gain, then yes—pole dancing is absolutely for you.

But if you’re looking for an easy win or can’t handle being a beginner for more than a few sessions, you might need to rethink your approach. Pole dancing is tough, but that’s exactly what makes it so rewarding for those who stick with it. So ask yourself: are you in for the long haul?

Cause if you are, I'm here for you!!! 😉 With Love and Gratitude,

Bruna